Thursday, 19 April 2018

Picking Out a Dress Part 2

PART 2: Shape of You

Look at the mirror! What do you look like? An apple? A pear? An hourglass? A rectangle? 

It sounds funny but actually this classification is very real. It has been a part of the fashion world for a very long time. It is so said that we must identify which shape out of the four we are, and that the dresses that we choose must be based on that. But in the real world, is a pear always a perfect pear? An apple a perfect apple? Every fruit is something different, though they all are sweet. People are also the same.  

Looking nice doesn't always have to be high maintenance. Working out hours in the gym to change the shape you own to the shape you want, surviving months on oats and salads, pearl facials with no pearl and gold facials with no gold, curling the straight hair and straightening the curly hair, these are often time taking and desperate measures. The easiest way to transform yourself  and be confident is by dressing for your shape.

Without being bothered about the fruits and vegetables which resemble you, there are some tips you can apply whenever you are shopping for a dress :-

1. You are tall.

Now, some of you are proud that you are tall. You walk tall, talk tall. You have a grin that says the world's beneath you.  And there are some who feel like their head sticks out in the crowd. They slouch to be in parallel with the world around them.
The first kind can wear any kind of dress. Your confidence will carry it off well. The latter can pick dresses that are knee-length or calf-length instead of full-length.Your long legs will not then catch so much attention. If you feel your torso is longer than your legs, go for short tops and crop tops, shirts that can be tied up and dresses that define your waist line. Formal wears can be high waist pants and skirts. Buttoning up your jacket or coat can also be one option.

2. You are short.

All beautiful things come in small packages. Lot of people think small people look cute and cuddly. So there is no need for you to feel jealous of the tall ones.
It is quite known that vertical stripes and designs elongate your look. You can also wear darker shades as bottom especially if you think your thighs make you look shorter. If your torso needs an illusion that it is long then choose shirts, t-shirts, tops etc. that have length a little below the hip line. Do not wear broader designs like horizontal stripes, big columns, etc. 

3. You are curvy.

Curvy is a confusing word. It could either mean that you have well-toned curves or the natural curves. The natural curvy ones may have some happy weight around their hips, stomach etc. As the well-toned curves have nothing to hide, let's talk about the natural ones.
When I gained weight, I tried so many different styles and finally realized that no dress can hide all. Still, there was a particular shape of dress which I found satisfying on me as well as many others who look like me. It's the A-line dress. Advantage of an A-line dress is that the dress itself has a defined shape which is like the letter A. It won't hug your body especially around hips and below.
Sometimes the dress may have a grip right below the bust and sometimes there might be a pattern either above that grip or below. That is totally your choice. For more slimming down effect, you can choose dark colors and small patterns. Bigger patterns will make you look large.

4. You are lean.

You are lean and you enjoy being lean. Try all styles of dress and if anyone can have a blast, it's you!

No, you think you look sick thin. You want to look a bit more healthy! I would recommend you wear dresses that are not body hugging. Look for a definite shape, never too loose. Wearing loose will look like your clothes are dangling on a hanger. Thicker materials will be more suitable than thin and flowy types.
Some people do not like to show their collar bones as it makes them look ill. In that case go for slightly closed collars like Mandarin (Chinese) collar or the Kimono style collar which has a cross over. There are plenty of options. If you like the closed-collar look, then there are variety of them like tie collar, Peter Pan collar, again, numerous options.
Some think their hands and legs are like twigs. Go for 3/4th sleeves, full sleeves, long flowy cape sleeves, bell sleeves and all sorts. Wearing full length straight cut pants and fuller skirts will be perfect for you than skinny jeans or pencil skirts.

5. Combination

You are basically lean with a little stomach pouch. You are tall at the same time top-heavy or bottom-heavy. You are short and curvy. The combination is countless. That's what makes us all unique by the way. So be happy that you are you! Who else can be The You?? :)

Now, for all combinations, I can shoot some arrows. You can stay in the way of what hits your target :-

i) Layering
Layering is a way of styling and hiding simultaneously. Adding a jacket (with or without sleeves) or coat can upgrade your look by a notch. Pick them wisely.

ii) Comfortable bottom

Your jeans, pants, skirts etc must work well for you throughout a long day. Whether you are travelling around the world or it is a daily job thing, if you are not in the right pants, you can never be in the right mind. It should not be too tight, it must be stretchable enough, it must have a breathing material, it must not drop down and show the smile of your butt cheeks :-) etc etc. 
Everyone, including me, has this tendency to say Yes to a pants which clearly says No to us, just because we fell in love with its look. At those tempting moments, just close your eyes, take a deep breath and remember all the dumped dusty pants at your home, which never saw the light of the day. That must do! :P

iii) Oblique designs ( Asymmetry & Draping ) and Shading

Oblique designs takes away the symmetry of the dress. It is a perfect way to divert attention. It could simply be an asymmetric dress or there could be smoothly falling drapes across the dress that enrich the look. The asymmetry creates shape whereas drapes accentuate the existing ones.
Also, you must have noticed that dresses with a darker shade fading into a lighter shade of same or different color, looks very fashionable on all body types. The shading can be vertical, horizontal or oblique.Whichever looks best on you, choose that one. The grey shades can look formal while the colorful ones can look funky. Jeans with shading is a balance between both. Be careful that it may look poor if shading is on a simple t-shirt or a top. So add layers for stylizing.

iv) Material

The material of the dress is something that we forget to look closely. According to the weather we categorize as Summer clothes, Winter clothes etc. But that's not it.
Thicker materials look rich and classy than very thin materials like polyester. It is because the cut and stitch looks perfect and the shape stays intact. Cotton, poly cotton, linen etc are best for those who emphasize on comfort. There are also mixed material fabrics, many which are better than single material fabric. Start taking a note of the material if you look and feel good in a dress.
If you are going for net-type or semi-transparent dress materials, remember that there is a thin line between looking sophisticated and looking distasteful. Definitely everyone can wear them. Choose them wisely.

v) Accessorizing

For any dress there will be a perfectly stylish accessory. Earring, neck piece, bracelet or bangle, hair accessories, belt, shoes.. the list is endless. The problem is that majority of us do not know what goes best with what.
If you are wearing a dress with glitters or embellishments, you need not over do the accessories. If your dress is monotonic, you can choose multiple ways accessorize it, each time giving it a different look.
Be playful with scarves. They come in all colors and patterns and are a less expensive way of adding style. Also there are many ways of wearing it. You can master a few, even invent your own.
Out of the metallic accessories, gold and silver must be carefully chosen and worn. It can make you look like a million dollars in both good way and bad way.
In general, long earrings and broad necklaces do not look that great together. Go for one of these two. If your neck is short, long earrings will make it look shorter. So look for interesting smaller ones. If your dress already has an attractive design or work around the neck, let that be the focus and do not hide it underneath a big necklace. If you feel that the neck of the dress is too wide or cut too deep that you neck looks bare, go for long chains optionally with layers or locket. 
Ethnic wears and lot of bangles is a perfect combination. Single-piece thin or broad bangle and bracelets go with almost all kinds of dress.
Belt is a powerful accessory that we rarely make use of. A few dresses, especially a monotone slightly long shirt or top which needs a waist definition or look enhancement calls for a belt. 

vi) Picturizing

While your imagination makes you feel like a princess as you keep staring at the mirror wearing the dress you adore, the ultimate way to find out is by taking a picture. Best option would be to ask somebody else to click a picture for you if you have company. Also, ask their honest opinion. Be ready to be heartened :D or heart-broken :( . But the important thing is you know what the future of you and your dress looks like.

Keep looking awesome! Keep feeling awesome!







Tuesday, 3 April 2018

Picking Out a Dress Part 1

PART 1: Online vs Offline Shopping



Who we are and What we wear..

The clothes that a person wears reflect his or her personality. Though we do not think beyond 'I like to wear it', there is actually much more to a dress. A dress could be soft or thick, simple or rich, colorful or plain. It could be wrinkle-free or must-iron. It could be for summer or winter, office or party. Then there are finer details like the material, various forms of cuts, lengths and shapes, in fact, it is an endless list. It is a combination of these factors which make you love or hate a dress. When you are wearing the right combination, that is the dress for you!

Try it till you Feel it!
 
I used to pick out dresses, online or directly from the store,without trying them on even once. For a long time this was perfectly fine. At one point, I realized that I am not that lean pole who can wear anything, anymore. I was blossoming into a young woman. That's when I started figuring out the difference between XS, S, M,  L, XL, XXL and all those things I never noticed before. I soon found that I am an M (Medium). Again M was fine for a long time. So I continued to simply buy and never bothered to try.
One day this system crashed! Sometimes S fitted and sometimes L. M was out of the picture! You must be thinking of me growing fat or becoming slim. Yes that is a possible reason, but No! That was not the case. To solve the issue, I searched in the Internet for the exact specifications (Like you already know..the bust, waist, hip in inches/cm) for the size labels. I tried to match it with my own size specifications. As a toast to my new discovery, I started buying dresses online, now looking carefully at the spec each time. That ended up in an even bigger disaster! If one time, I could not get the dress down my chest, sometimes I could not get it off my chest (FYI, I am not suggesting that I have a big chest). This is a common disaster which occurs especially in women's wear.
Some of you wealthy fellas might be thinking of Brands. That won't help you always either. Trust me! I have tried it all. So the question is how do we choose the right dress? That is one of the reasons why buying offline (From the store) is a better choice. There are 3 obvious benefits :

1. You can feel the material
2. You can try on the dress
3. You can check for damages

The key here is 'ALWAYS TRY THE DRESS', even if it looks very pretty, even if it is the color you have been searching for in centuries and even if it is the brand that you trust more than your boyfriend. Love at first sight may have worked for you in your life, but may not in your dress. Feeling how the dress falls on your body lets you know if you and your dress will have a long-term relationship or not.

The 'Online Shopping Challenge'




Now, what about online shopping?? Even with all the benefits of buying directly from the store, we prefer online shopping. Ofcourse! We live in the era of all-in-one-click and we cannot rule out that option completely. So how to pick a dress online? It is very simple - you see, you like, you buy and then keep your fingers crossed ( ;-) ).
From my personal experience, if I order three dresses, I will have to return two and if I am lucky, I get to keep one. Why this happens? The size labels I mentioned earlier is a complete mystery. You have these UK, US, ASIA, AFRICA and so on categories (Not always!)  for each XS, S, M, L etc. Sometimes you would have observed that either of bust, hip or waist subcategory is missing under the labels. And, the cherry on top - 'it all depends on the Brand and sometimes there is none'! In short, we do not have a standard size label system for clothes. You may also have observed that some online shopping websites, though they are hosting clothes from multiple Brands, may have given the same size chart for all Brands. As there is no perfect solution to the challenge of picking out a dress online, I can give you 10 pointers :

1. Keep a go-to-list of Brands, Sellers and Sites you have found good from your experience or peers' experience.
2. If you like a dress, read every detail given on its page like material, people's review and comments.
3. Look at the size chart carefully and pick your size.
4. If there is an option to ask questions, ask your doubts and wait for reply before ordering.
5. Always check for Return and Refund option. Also check if returning is painful, that is, whether you have to send it back yourself to the seller or not.
6. If you are a busy person and do not have the time to return, do not take the risk of buying online.
7. For functions like Wedding, if you are well ahead in schedule, you may try online options. Otherwise do not go for this option at all.
8. If you are specifically looking for a particular type of dress, use the filtering option to reduce search time.
9. Some Sites or Brands offer 'try before buy' option. Utilize this option if available.
10. Do not buy very cheap dresses with too much discount offer as it clearly indicates very poor quality.

The key here is 'MINIMIZE SEARCH TIME & RISK'. You have humongous number of options online for everything and especially clothes and accessories. A lot of time has to be spent on reading details and narrowing down options. Simply scrolling in a website can take hours. Anything you like at first sight, add to wish list. Keep modifying your wish list until you are sure of what to buy. Also, if you are shopping casually, take some time to think whether you actually need the dresses you intend to buy or not because Online Shopping is too easy to lose money.

Happy Shopping Everyone! :)






Sunday, 1 April 2018

About the blog

Hi everyone! I am Sita. Welcome to the Box of Chocolates. 

In this blog you will find anything and everything.. fashion, health, life hacks, life lessons.. just like Forrest Gump says, ''You never know what you're gonna get!''. I am sure that you will be able to find something useful in each article. They are all based on experience - my own as well as others, and some research.

Links to blogs :-

Fashion

1.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/04/picking-out-dress-1.html
2.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/04/picking-out-dress-2.html
3.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/08/picking-out-dress-3.html
4.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2019/01/wardrobe-minimalism-should-we-or-should.html
5.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2019/03/amazon-kurtas-wishlist.html

Things to know while moving to a new city 

1.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/05/new-of-everything.html
2.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/08/true-life-hacks-what-you-need-to-know.html

Life Hacks

1.)  https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/08/true-life-hacks-how-to-protect-your.html
2.)  https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/08/true-life-hacks-5-ways-you-can-use-wet.html
3.)  https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/09/true-life-hacks-5-easy-ways-to-decorate.html
4.)  https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/10/true-life-hacks-buying-curtains-for.html

Life Lessons

1.)  https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/07/how-to-save-ourselves-from-deception-of.html
2.)  https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2018/10/true-life-lessons-how-to-identify-and.html
3.) https://boc2018.blogspot.com/2019/01/life-lessons-how-to-stabilize-your-mind.html